4 Questions to Ask Yourself When the Rug Get’s Pulled Out From Under Your Feet.

Have you ever had one of those “Monday” morning emails or phone calls that just turns your world upside down? Perhaps one of your employees or colleagues or business partners had done some soul searching over the weekend and decided this gig is not for them anymore?  Or maybe your boss or business partner did some soul searching and decided your not for this gig anymore.  Or just maybe it’s a gift showing up in an unexpected form.

Recently I had one of those Monday mornings.   At first it took my breath away, then it took the wind out of my sails, and before I let my thoughts spiral any farther I decided to just STOP every thought and I put myself in TIME OUT.   This was not the first time this happened over the years and I have learned TIME OUT is a great thing.  It definitely wasn’t scheduled, however its one thing that can interrupt my schedule anytime when I am wise enough to use it.

As I soaked in the warm sun and felt the cool breeze across my face, I took a deep breath.  God what are you trying to tell me?  What am I supposed to learn from this?  I just paused and filled my mind with intense wonder.  The following questions started popping into my mind, elevating my thinking and allowing me to see the gift in this moment.

  1. If you were to start with a clean slate right now knowing what you know would you still do this? 

My immediate response was – Probably not. I was intrigued how quickly the words came out of my mouth.  Interesting…  One person’s decision to no longer be involved was going to have that much impact. really!!!  How did I let that happen?

  1. Look at the facts, what REALLY changed?

As I reflected on the situation it became apparent that the desired outcome for the project remained intact and the strategy to facilitate the outcome was not impacted.  It was a leadership responsibility change. What did change was access to resources as originally planned and the amount of time required of me.

  1. If you decide to proceed what needs to be different: People, Process, or Products & Services Offered?

Alignments and having a strong partner was imperative for me to even consider moving forward, the vision was too large to go it alone.  I either needed to scale back, say this isn’t for me or find the best partner.

As I said the word partner, I could hear my mentor, Paul Martinelli’s voice in my ear.  ‘Chris you partner up, collaborate across and mentor down.’  I really desired a partner.

  1. What does that ideal look like for you?

The slate had been cleared and the real opportunity surfaced when I started asking myself, ‘Who do I really want to partner with?  Who can I bring unique value to that can also bring value to me?’

Getting the relationships aligned before I focused on achieving the desired results was imperative for me given this is where the hiccup happened.  Before changing anything I knew I needed to envision the ideal partner (before process or products & services changes).  I knew with a new partner our roles will be very different, our investment of time extremely different, and our core values would be the strength of our partnership.  Once a new partnership is formed we can review the process as well as the products and services to see if they are the best moving forward.

It was at this turning point that ideas starting pouring in and before I realized it I was back up. Ready to run with an expanded vision, new energy in my spirit and with even stronger faith that I am on the right path.

The rug was pulled out to redirect my thinking.

I am not giving up. 

I am getting up to win the race, my race.  

“ This is one of the tricks of opportunity.  It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity.”   Napoleon Hill